MY QUEENDOM IS MY BEAUTY

It has taken me quite a number of years to step into my Queendom. Unfortunately, during that time I always neglected my needs and put the needs of others first. In the past it was of paramount importance for me to totally focus on my relationship with others, to ensure that their needs were met, and cross bridges for them that they would never reciprocate for me. WELP!!!!!! I shook that ish off quite a few years ago because I am worth so much more, self-care immediately became the most important aspect of my existence. It was at that point that I began to live unapologetically, and redefine/re-evaluate many of my ships…relationships, friendships, and partnerships etc.

And so my transition began……..So from then to now….I have learned and observed so much…and now

As I walk through this thing called life, I am inundated with subliminal messages of what society defines as beauty. I have viewed pictures that depict beautiful woman with certain measurements as the epitome of beauty. I am here to declare that is a crock of poop, I am beautiful in the skin that I am in…..why because God has encased my beauty within this vessel, within this 6’1″ 220 pound frame lies a woman of valor, substance, integrity, who oozes love and wishes nothing but the best for myself and everyone that I interact with. This beautiful vessel of mine has had the opportunity of gaining weight, losing weight, carrying life within, and enduring injury/surgery to name a few. I have never subscribed to society’s definition of beauty because the originators of this superficial concept do not look like me, have not been through what I have been through, their roots were not grown or grounded in the sands of the Motherland, in the Middle Passages, nor on the islands of the West Indies, suffice to say my bone structure was not designed to conform to their warped and short sided views of beauty.

I vowed early on in my life to not be compartmentalized, or marginalized by anyone else’s view or perception of me or my vessel. I have never sought to fit in, and I have always stood out. I have been blessed with, and worn this magnificent frame since the 7th grade, towering over my counterparts long before their growth spurts were ready. Admittedly, I have not always been in agreement with some of my physical changes throughout the years, however I have always accepted responsibility for where my body was and where it wasn’t!!

Exercise is key for me, mostly dancing! I feel FREE when I dance, I embrace my roots through the spirit of dance, I dance one on one with my Queenhood and strut with my crown in all settings because there are no other options for living my best life. Don’t get me wrong, I have my trials, tribulations, struggles, complaints, and obstacles, but I never stop moving, never stop trying, never stop seeking the best and truest essence of myself, because ultimately I am worth it!

MY QUEENDOM IS MY BEAUTY!!!

Queen are you worth more? What are you doing to maintain and honor your Queendom?

If this blog struck a chord with you, please share it with your fellow Queens!

Love you all!!!

THERE IS BEAUTY IN THE PROCESS AND PROGRESS!

2016 has been a hellified year to say the least!! When I consider what has been lost and what has been gained I am inclined to believe that my life is on the precipice of rebirth, reinvigoration, realignment, resignation, replenishment, repayment, and restoration. Throughout this year thus far, I have created several non-negotiables that I must abide by in order for this emergence from my cocoon to the beauty of rebirth and thefreedom of renewal. Self-care, self-preservation, and self-love are on the short list.

I have been diligent in trying to challenge myself to be better today than I was yesterday, and I must admit, it has truly been an uphill battle. My challenge has been to balance the demands of my very hectic life with loving my life more, doing more of what I love, having fun, and improving the lives of my family.

I have resolved that as a woman in my 40’s it is now safe for me to live an unapologetic existence, it is okay to be emboldened by my challenges, and re-evaluate all of my hiccups from a variety of perspectives to find the lesson…..

While we are on the topic of lessons, let me tell you, they have not been easy to swallow, but they most certainly have been essential to my personal growth. I am a complex person filled with so much to give, but reserved enough to realize, there is reciprocity in everything that I commit to from this day on….

Not because I am entitled, simply because I deserve to get what I want, I deserve to put myself first, this is self-love personified. It is beautiful to have grown into this space that I now occupy, my wings are formed, my back is arched, and I am prepared for flight. This butterfly is ready to spread her wings, and share it with other wonderful women like yourselves.

Let us be bold in our quest for the very best life that we can live!! As I have been reminded on several occasions, this is no dress rehearsal, the time is NOW to live your life.

If you have made decisions that no longer serve you and they do not honor the truest essence of yourself, I encourage you to decide differently!  I encourage you to take the steps that will release and relinquish any bondage in all areas of your life that are screaming for change.

In Prince’s famous words….We are gathered here today to get through this thing called life….

As we grow through it….remember that there is beauty in the process and in the progress.

Set your goals for a better life today, do not wait until New Year’s eve. Have a plan of action, a plan of execution, and an exit strategy!

Now get to work!!

WHO ARE YOU….THEN AND NOW!

Many people ask me who am I, who do I identify with, why do I think as I do, and most definitely what propels me to do the things that I do.

My answer is simple….I must live my most authentic life, and always be in the truest essence of myself. I do not surround myself with people, places, and things that do not resonate well with me. I do not apologize for my views, because I own them in every shape and form. I take ownership and responsibility for where my life is, and where it is not! As a direct result of this core belief, I am motivated to get up each day and try my hand at it again.

MY THEN~

I often say that one has no control over their childhood, however one has full dominion over their adulthood. As a product of Caribbean descent, I grew up with firm rules, values, and principles. As a child I was a scholar,  very independent, and strong minded. By no means was it easy as a child, but I am actually grateful for my life experiences, because they have honestly shaped who I am today.

MY NOW~

I am a woman, mother, wife, and entrepreneur. I most certainly am not super human, but I have a particular set of skills that make me an arsenal of awesomeness! As I actively pursue living my life unapologetically, I am determined to enjoy my days, by whatever means necessary! Through the years, I have blossomed and my confidence has grown so much, admittedly stepping out of my comfort zone has been the main catalyst for this growth. As a woman in my 40’s my life is surreal at times, insane at others, and very gratifying mostly. Can you relate?

I MUST ADMIT I LOVE ME, AND THE ADULT THAT I HAVE BECOME!!

Well my challenge for every person that reads this blog post today is to ask yourself a series of edifying questions…..

Who are you?

What are you grateful for?

What motivates you?

What limits you?

What are you doing with your dash?

What will you do today, that your future self will thank you for?

**Share your responses in the comments below…..I want to know what moves you!**