It has taken me quite a number of years to step into my Queendom. Unfortunately, during that time I always neglected my needs and put the needs of others first. In the past it was of paramount importance for me to totally focus on my relationship with others, to ensure that their needs were met, and cross bridges for them that they would never reciprocate for me. WELP!!!!!! I shook that ish off quite a few years ago because I am worth so much more, self-care immediately became the most important aspect of my existence. It was at that point that I began to live unapologetically, and redefine/re-evaluate many of my ships…relationships, friendships, and partnerships etc.

And so my transition began……..So from then to now….I have learned and observed so much…and now

As I walk through this thing called life, I am inundated with subliminal messages of what society defines as beauty. I have viewed pictures that depict beautiful woman with certain measurements as the epitome of beauty. I am here to declare that is a crock of poop, I am beautiful in the skin that I am in…..why because God has encased my beauty within this vessel, within this 6’1″ 220 pound frame lies a woman of valor, substance, integrity, who oozes love and wishes nothing but the best for myself and everyone that I interact with. This beautiful vessel of mine has had the opportunity of gaining weight, losing weight, carrying life within, and enduring injury/surgery to name a few. I have never subscribed to society’s definition of beauty because the originators of this superficial concept do not look like me, have not been through what I have been through, their roots were not grown or grounded in the sands of the Motherland, in the Middle Passages, nor on the islands of the West Indies, suffice to say my bone structure was not designed to conform to their warped and short sided views of beauty.

I vowed early on in my life to not be compartmentalized, or marginalized by anyone else’s view or perception of me or my vessel. I have never sought to fit in, and I have always stood out. I have been blessed with, and worn this magnificent frame since the 7th grade, towering over my counterparts long before their growth spurts were ready. Admittedly, I have not always been in agreement with some of my physical changes throughout the years, however I have always accepted responsibility for where my body was and where it wasn’t!!

Exercise is key for me, mostly dancing! I feel FREE when I dance, I embrace my roots through the spirit of dance, I dance one on one with my Queenhood and strut with my crown in all settings because there are no other options for living my best life. Don’t get me wrong, I have my trials, tribulations, struggles, complaints, and obstacles, but I never stop moving, never stop trying, never stop seeking the best and truest essence of myself, because ultimately I am worth it!


Queen are you worth more? What are you doing to maintain and honor your Queendom?

If this blog struck a chord with you, please share it with your fellow Queens!

Love you all!!!


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